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I know, I promised posts here and they have never come. I’m not going to promise anything more than this, but there will probably be a few. Today, I have had just this thought that has been closing in on me.. I have had numerous experiences that have left me pondering. I could easily have titled this “How Do I Change?” I could probably make this a 17 part blog series since I know all about trying to change. Heck, I’m in Celebrate Recovery for some of my issues (NOTE: Celebrate Recover is all about healing our hurts, habits and hang-ups in a Christ-Centered way. I like to joke that I have all 3). Anyway, this isn’t really a post about C.R. per se...

How Do We Really Change?

19 July 2012
Jay Kimble

I know, I promised posts here and they have never come. I’m not going to promise anything more than this, but there will probably be a few. Today, I have had just this thought that has been closing in on me.. I have had numerous experiences that have left me pondering.

I could easily have titled this “How Do I Change?” I could probably make this a 17 part blog series since I know all about trying to change. Heck, I’m in Celebrate Recovery for some of my issues (NOTE: Celebrate Recover is all about healing our hurts, habits and hang-ups in a Christ-Centered way. I like to joke that I have all 3).

Anyway, this isn’t really a post about C.R. per se, but it is about attitude and what you choose to focus on. Today I was listening to the radio on my way back home from an appointment. They were interviewing Brandon Heath, and something he said made me ponder my way of life a little.

You see, we get so caught up in our little lives that we sometimes miss the lives around us. 100 years after we are dead, probably no one will remember us. So why do we get so caught up with the guy who cut us off in traffic or just the stupid things we stress over. Why can’t we see things from other’s perspective? Why must we be so obsessed with our own way?

Back to Brandon for a sec, one of the things he talked about was that Jesus lived a quietly awesome life. Think about it. Jesus does a miracle and what does He say? “Don’t tell anyone.”

This got me thinking about how I proceed in life.. all caught up in my little world. Now, mind you I have to work for a living and I have to make sure that food gets on the table. But what am I doing for my immediate family? How about my friends? How about the people just outside my circle?

How do I treat my kids when they are doing something like what I observed today where the child unwrapped the burrito they were about to eat and they have the potential of making a big mess? Do I get bent out of shape like the dad I observed today? Or do I chuckle and say “Oh honey! What are you doing? <chuckle/> Let me see that.. Don’t you know how to eat a burrito?” I want to say the latter, but honestly it usually the former. This is not because I am a bad dad.. it’s that I have a bad work day, or a disappointment in life and everything else goes down hill (and everyone else suffers as a result).

So How do we change? I think by stopping and seeing value in others, and by laying aside our concerns. If we have had a bad day. Say it! But then put it aside. Love the ones around you speaking blessings not curses. For instance I had the opportunity to encourage someone recently at C.R. I told this person that I believed that they were going to make it. That life was going to get better for them (and I do believe that) despite all the stuff they had gone through.

We have to be encouragers and have better attitudes about life.. otherwise, we’ll never be happy (and neither will anyone else who is around us). We can change the world, and influence it by loving the ones we can being understanding that none of us is perfect.